Dutch Culture: Birthday Parties
A Tradition Unlike Any Other
If you're invited to a Dutch birthday party, expect a few surprises. From congratulating everyone in the room to hosting your own celebration (including providing your own cake), Dutch birthdays are a world apart from what many expats might be used to.
“Gefeliciteerd!”—To Everyone
One of the most unique Dutch customs is congratulating not just the birthday person, but also their family and close friends. When you arrive at a party, you'll often go around the room saying “Gefeliciteerd!” to everyone present. It might feel strange at first, but it’s a sweet way to make everyone feel included.
The Birthday Circle
In Dutch homes, birthday parties often involve sitting in a circle of chairs—literally called the “verjaardagskring” (birthday circle). Guests chat over coffee, tea, and cake, and there may be snacks and drinks later in the day. It’s a cozy, communal tradition that values conversation over extravagance.
Bring Your Own Cake (Sort Of)
In many cultures, friends bring the cake. In the Netherlands, the birthday person is expected to provide the treats. If it’s your birthday, you’ll likely be buying cake or “vlaai” (a Limburg-style fruit pie) for everyone—whether at home or even in the office.
Celebrating at Work or School
It’s common to bring snacks or sweets to share with coworkers or classmates. Children bring treats to school on their birthdays (known as “traktatie”), often in creative or themed presentations. Adults may bring pastries or cookies to the office to mark their day.
Hosting Your Own Party
Another Dutch birthday custom is that the birthday person throws their own party—complete with drinks, snacks, and entertainment. It’s a show of hospitality and ownership over the celebration. Guests often bring gifts, but the onus is on the host to provide a good time.
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